A few months ago I received a letter from my great aunt Beverly. We had been writing back and forth for quite some time. One of the things that stuck out in this particular letter, was the length of her marriage to my great uncle Mac. 62 years, they have been married for 62 years. They have been in love ever since they were teenagers and they are still in love to this day.
But here is the problem. Today’s divorce rates are going up and the rate of long term marriages are plummeting down.
Why? Why is this happening?
Falling in love with someone and a deep instant connection is all that it really takes. Heart racing, head spinning, butterflies in the stomach, a shiver down your spine. These are the feelings that you have when you fall in love with your dream boy/girl.
But how do these feelings suddenly drop off the face of the earth and make the once loving couple become a part of the statistic? There are several reasons this ends up happening.
Lovemaking in the bedroom has died down. This one is a major part of the reason why marriages fail. Instead of making love to the one that you once claimed you loved so dearly every day of the week. It has instead become like a chore. Only to produce a son or daughter is on the minds. Yes, children are amazing. They are God’s greatest gifts. But you should freely make love to your spouse.
Feel the connection once more.
For me, I’m a extremely passionate sexual person. And I only make love to the one that I’m truly, head over heels in love with. So once I have obtained a husband, I will make passionate love to him. For me, lovemaking is a big part of the relationship. It shows a deep connection between two people who are so in love with one another. It’s not the only thing that matters, trust me. Compatibility and being madly in love is extremely important. It has just much importance as lovemaking.
All over instagram, tumblr, or any other social site like these, there are people who take pictures of themselves daily and post it for the whole world to see.
Once a lady or man has stripped down to pretty much nothing and posted the whole world to see, then over a million likes will be made and then there will be that voice in the back of their mind that is constantly telling them to strip clothes off for others to like them. But in the end, this will just ruin the marriage.
When a man’s wondering eyes finds another pretty young thing, or a woman starts a torrid love affair at work, then things get intense.
A bit of advice, even though you may be human, remember this… if you cannot keep your legs together or your eyes on the one you proclaim to love, then you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.
Bit harsh? Yes, I know it is. But it’s the harsh truth.
When you are married, there are more things that you believe you must have. Did you need that two bedroom condo in the city? What about that brand new vehicle? Student loans? Mortgages?
Financial issues can ruin a relationship relatively quick. In order to overcome this situation, you must sit down and work out a monthly budget, a savings account, and miscellaneous things that are important that you need.
5. Creeping into personal lives.
It’s no doubt that social media is the big hit nowadays. Everyone has some sort of site that they use. I have Facebook and Twitter accounts to stay in touch with relatives and also clients. But I don’t like to share too much on those sites. Why? Simple. I want to have a private life. Don’t you want to have a private life as well? Enjoy your life and the people who are in it.
Social media is creeping its way into relationships, more particularly marriages and destroying them. Random strangers will strike up extreme sexual conversations (cheating).
I find it a pity really. The sanctity of marriage is crumbling.
Yet, I do see a glimmer of hope.
A light down the road to a happy marriage for everyone. I’m one of those hopeless romantic women. I still believe in love at first sight. I still believe in the marriage between two people (any two people) who are madly in love.
It’s about time for everyone to start putting 100% into relationships.