Everyone is different, this is true. I’m completely different from my sister’s and my brother’s, and different from my co-workers when it comes to the matters of the heart. Most people think about their wedding day. They think about every detail, down to the lingerie that they will wear. Whereas, I do not. What lies in my heart, is what I want.
I don’t want some expensive engagement ring, it’s not important to me. I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars just to marry the person of my dreams. The design of my future wedding dress does not plague my mind. The supposed perfect six pack is not on my list of important things to look for in a partner. A dozen of expensive roses turns me off, as does jewelry, I do not want that.
However, what does feel my heart is finding the person I’m supposed to spend the rest of my life with, and waking up next to them every morning. Able to read books with them, and have intellectual conversations. Have full on warfare with squirt guns throughout the house. Experiencing life and travel. If a wedding occurs, no need to have expensive rings; simple ones with meaning are better and hand fasting will take place. Spirituality and openness is in my heart. A few picked wild flowers are more intimate and thoughtful, and I appreciate those more than expensive roses. A home cooked meal or picnic after a hike is more romantic than a five star restaurant. Humor, compassionate, hearty appetite, family man, intellect, spiritual is more important than a six pack. Will not lie; tall, accent, strong (like a blacksmith or a highlander athlete) is a plus, but six packs are a no-no. Personality, intellect, and humour are more important than superficial looks.
The matters of my heart, are bound to be different from yours, and that’s perfectly fine. Never feel guilty that you are different from others, that will tear you up. Stay true to you.