This date is going horrible. He (or she) is not who they say they are. They are not the one. There is no communication between us. Worst date ever.
These sentences have been uttered by pretty much everyone in this world, including myself. For the past several years, I have had several horrible dates that never went on to having a second date, and for good reasons to. One guy kept texting during the entire date and didn’t talk at all, and another left me only a quarter of the way through the date to go ski with his friend while leaving me to ski all on my own (ski date). Those are just a couple of the horrible dates I’ve been on. And for the longest time, I kept telling myself “There’s no one out there. There are no good men out there.” This was because I kept having these horrible dates.
But recently, I went on a date that changed my whole perspective. This guy was outgoing, funny and overall generous. We had sushi, made fun of each other, had ice cream and formed a friendship. Sure, we are not going to be together in dating terms, but we are great as friends. He showed me that dating can be fun and relaxing, while being serious. He was the first guy who didn’t walk out on the date or be on his phone. He was the first guy who opened up the car door for me. He was the first guy who showed me that something was waiting for me around the corner.
After years of having these horrible dates, there is something in the air that has changed for me. Something in my personal romantic life has changed for the better, just because of this one amazing date. And it’s a feeling that I’ve never felt before. I can honestly thank my friend for this. That date changed my perspective on dating, love and changes to come.
I once said that I had given up, that I realized that I would never have the chance of getting married or having the family I wanted. But after the date with the friend, I know that there is still hope. It’s just waiting for me to venture out into the winds and ocean waves, to take me into the relationship that I’m supposed to be in.
If you feel like there is no hope in finding love, just wait. Wait till you have had that date where it changes everything. You will be surprised.