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It Starts With Us: Parents Talking to Their Children to Stop Bullying

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“You’re not thin enough”, “You look weird”, “Why are you even here? You should die”, these phrases are just a few of the phrases that are being thrown around in the schoolyards, in the classrooms, and I kid you not, at work as well. And believe it or not, there are even some worse phrases that will not be mentioned in this post. Why? Because they are horrifying and should never be said to another human being, or any being for that matter.

Now, I am not a parent, well, I am a fur-mama, but I do not have any human children at the moment. However, I do have nieces and nephews, and they are the light of my world, and right now they are very young, very impressionable, and can sense when things are not right. And I know that they are the perfect target for bullying. Hell, every child, teenager, and adult is a perfect target for being bullied. I know this. I’ve lived through most of my life of being bullied. Bullied by classmates, by teachers (yes, that does happen), and even bullied by co-workers, and it is not something I would want another person to endure.

Recently, I found out that a friend of mine’s son was bullied. Bullied to the point that he was sent to the hospital with a broken nose, several broken ribs, and bruises all up and down his body. Do you know how angry this made his father feel? How his mother felt? Hell, when I heard what happened I got so mad to the point that I nearly broke a counter. Yes, I got that mad. But where does this anger get placed? On the school system? Absolutely, the school is responsible for the children while they are at school, and under their supervision. On the children themselves? Of course, they are supposed to know what is right from wrong. On ourselves? Yes, a million times yes it is, the anger should weigh heavily on us adults. Why should we be angry with ourselves? Because we are the adults here, we are supposed to show our children how to behave, how to treat one another and to show them that they are not supposed to bully and assault others. As the adults we are supposed to set an example for them, to show them that two beings can be in the same room without violating the other. We are not supposed to set a bad example to them about how to start a fight, how to mistreat a girl or a boy. We are the adults here, it is our job.

Yes, there are pep rallies every year in most schools that bring awareness to the subject at hand, but do they really make an impact? No, not really. Growing up I went to several of those rallies, and do you know what still occurred. The bullying still occurred. Don’t get me wrong, I think the rallies are great, but they do not actually do much help when it comes to telling children to stop bullying, to stop assaulting their classmates, or anyone they meet in life.

It all starts at home, with the parents. As parents, we are supposed to set examples, good examples of how to treat others, and it is the way you mistreat others, say unkind and horrible things about another person is what the children are seeing more of. I know this to be true. I know a lady who is in her early 40’s and she treats others like crap, she mistreats them, bullies them, steals their energy, and makes others feel like garbage. And time and time again her children have witnessed this, and time and time again I have to remind her that they are watching her every move, every word that she says, and they are more than likely going to mimic her as they grow up. And that is what happens. Children mimic their parents, they mimic the way we talk to each other, how we treat each other. And if they are seeing that we are mistreating each other, then they are going to assume that it is completely normal, that it is okay to bully and assault each other.

So, parents this on us. We need to be setting a good example for the children, and show them how two human beings can get along, and show them how to treat others. Have a long conversation, or two, or three. It doesn’t matter how many conversations you have with your children, the only thing that does matter is that you talk with them and that you set yourself as a good example. Because if we don’t do anything about this, then more and more boys and girls will end up in hospitals due to broken ribs, led to anorexia or bulimia, or even led to the final blow of a gun from being bullied.

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The Cunning Race: The Ignorant Side of the Political Race on Social Media

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Here we are in the year 2016. This is the last year for President Barack Obama to be the President of the United States of America. And right now at this very moment is the race to the white house. We have several candidates who are running for presidency, yet the two main runners are representing the Republican (Donald Trump) and Democrat (Hillary Clinton) parties.

I am not a political person, I do vote and I do have an opinion, however I do not wish to talk politics with others due to the fact that all it does is start wars that should never be started. However, I would like to preface that I will not be voting for either Trump or Clinton, that is just my opinion on this whole matter (voting for another person). Rarely will I even get into the political side of the social media (Twitter, Facebook, etc.), however I do see the posts that my family, friends, and followers put up. And time after time again, it is always the two major political parties going into a feeding frenzy over their views. Which quite honestly, I find a bit ridiculous and a waste of time.

What I find even more a waste of time, name calling. Name calling over someone’s own opinion and view on the subject at hand. Let me give you an example, one of my cousins recently posted about his wife getting name called over her view of Donald Trump (her presidential choice) and it had been taken too far. Let me ask you all this, aren’t you a little too old to be name calling someone? A little too old to be trying to tear someone down for having their own opinion, their own view, their own beliefs? I believe so.

Freedom of Expression is listed in the Constitution under the Bill of Rights, declaring everyone the right to express themselves, that includes political views. Just because someone’s view doesn’t line up with yours, doesn’t mean that you have every right to trash talk them and tear them down for having a mind of their own. Yes, a good old debate where things can be somewhat civilized is a great way to see both views out on the table and let others see things from a different perspective. Sadly, there are people out there who decide to resort to cyber bullying someone just because they have a different mindset and a different political opinion.

Yes, we all have our own views, our own beliefs, and we belong to our chosen political parties. No one is the same, even in the political aspects of life. It is just impossible for everyone to believe in the same thing. If every person thought the same way, believe in the same thing, and “stayed in the line” so to speak (conform), then we would all be mindless robots under the rule of a tyrannical dictator and live horrible miserable lives. Does that sound like heaven to you? Personally, I think that would be hell on earth, I don’t plan living there. I wouldn’t even want to live in this time period either, but I digress.

Everyone’s views on this whole race to the white house differ from each person, that is just how it is. Resorting to cyber bullying is one of the lowest things any person could do on the internet, and quite honestly it is not worth it. Remember, you have your own view and not everyone will agree with you. Getting upset just because no one is going to conform to your way of thinking is not going to help you out in the end.