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It Starts With Us: Parents Talking to Their Children to Stop Bullying

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“You’re not thin enough”, “You look weird”, “Why are you even here? You should die”, these phrases are just a few of the phrases that are being thrown around in the schoolyards, in the classrooms, and I kid you not, at work as well. And believe it or not, there are even some worse phrases that will not be mentioned in this post. Why? Because they are horrifying and should never be said to another human being, or any being for that matter.

Now, I am not a parent, well, I am a fur-mama, but I do not have any human children at the moment. However, I do have nieces and nephews, and they are the light of my world, and right now they are very young, very impressionable, and can sense when things are not right. And I know that they are the perfect target for bullying. Hell, every child, teenager, and adult is a perfect target for being bullied. I know this. I’ve lived through most of my life of being bullied. Bullied by classmates, by teachers (yes, that does happen), and even bullied by co-workers, and it is not something I would want another person to endure.

Recently, I found out that a friend of mine’s son was bullied. Bullied to the point that he was sent to the hospital with a broken nose, several broken ribs, and bruises all up and down his body. Do you know how angry this made his father feel? How his mother felt? Hell, when I heard what happened I got so mad to the point that I nearly broke a counter. Yes, I got that mad. But where does this anger get placed? On the school system? Absolutely, the school is responsible for the children while they are at school, and under their supervision. On the children themselves? Of course, they are supposed to know what is right from wrong. On ourselves? Yes, a million times yes it is, the anger should weigh heavily on us adults. Why should we be angry with ourselves? Because we are the adults here, we are supposed to show our children how to behave, how to treat one another and to show them that they are not supposed to bully and assault others. As the adults we are supposed to set an example for them, to show them that two beings can be in the same room without violating the other. We are not supposed to set a bad example to them about how to start a fight, how to mistreat a girl or a boy. We are the adults here, it is our job.

Yes, there are pep rallies every year in most schools that bring awareness to the subject at hand, but do they really make an impact? No, not really. Growing up I went to several of those rallies, and do you know what still occurred. The bullying still occurred. Don’t get me wrong, I think the rallies are great, but they do not actually do much help when it comes to telling children to stop bullying, to stop assaulting their classmates, or anyone they meet in life.

It all starts at home, with the parents. As parents, we are supposed to set examples, good examples of how to treat others, and it is the way you mistreat others, say unkind and horrible things about another person is what the children are seeing more of. I know this to be true. I know a lady who is in her early 40’s and she treats others like crap, she mistreats them, bullies them, steals their energy, and makes others feel like garbage. And time and time again her children have witnessed this, and time and time again I have to remind her that they are watching her every move, every word that she says, and they are more than likely going to mimic her as they grow up. And that is what happens. Children mimic their parents, they mimic the way we talk to each other, how we treat each other. And if they are seeing that we are mistreating each other, then they are going to assume that it is completely normal, that it is okay to bully and assault each other.

So, parents this on us. We need to be setting a good example for the children, and show them how two human beings can get along, and show them how to treat others. Have a long conversation, or two, or three. It doesn’t matter how many conversations you have with your children, the only thing that does matter is that you talk with them and that you set yourself as a good example. Because if we don’t do anything about this, then more and more boys and girls will end up in hospitals due to broken ribs, led to anorexia or bulimia, or even led to the final blow of a gun from being bullied.

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Role Models

Laki Penan (Bruno Manser, aka Laki Penan)

Each and every one of us has at least one role model that we look up to, in fact there are some of us who have more than one. A role model is someone who we look up to in any aspect of life. Someone who we aspire to be like and to learn from. Many of us look up to our parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. But our family members are not the only ones that can be our role models. There are many people around the world, who work in specific communities who become role models for others.  Role models help shape who we are, who we are to become, and set a positive influence in our lives. To say that role models are a big deal in our lives would be an understatement. There is no word that I can think of to describe how much of a big deal it is to have a role model and to even be a role model yourself.

In the previous paragraph, I mentioned that immediate family members can and are usually role models for the younger ones. And this is very much true. In my family, my parents are good role models for my brother and I; they work hard, held down several jobs to have a roof over our heads, food in our stomach, and constant love for my brother and I. They are the type of parents any child would be happy to have. Outside of my immediate family, my aunt Jennie, my best friends and sisters Kala and Schuylar are all major role models in my life. They push me to be a better person and poet. Bruno Manser (aka Laki Penan), Rachel Louise Carson, Franz Weber, and Hilda Murrell are big role models for me in the activist community. All of these wonderful people have taught me to fight for what I believe from an early age. Not only that, they are just overall kind hearted people who try to help others, the environment, and animals. They have shaped me to be the activist that I am now.

I cannot stress it enough, having role models in your life is extremely important. They help you grow, bring positive influence into your life, guide you, and cheer you on when you accomplish milestones in all aspects of your life. Who are your role models? Who do you look up to? What have you learned from them? How have they shaped you? Do you think that you have become th person that you have always wanted to be with the role models that you look up to?

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Knowledge is Power

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    Ancient Greek, cultures, ancient Egypt, mummies, King Arthur, dinosaurs, magic, papyrus, the secrets of the ancient sexual worlds, Valley of the Kings, Cleopatra; these are just a few things that I am obsessively always learning. My body shivers every time a new piece of evidence surfaces into our world. The hair on my arms and on the back of my neck stands up. I cannot help it. I’m the type of person who values knowledge as a powerful thing. Not money nor fashion. But knowledge. Every time I get a book on the ancient civilizations, I get giddy. My mind starts to run amuck and I can’t stop it.
     To this day, I can still see the image of seeing Queen Cleopatra floating down the Nile River on the royal boat. Not only that, I can see myself walking down the cobbled streets of ancient Italy and making my way to the markets and smell the fresh fish and vegetables that filled the air. With all of the information that I have ever gathered from my childhood and also my own information on certain things that no one else knows (for some unknown reason, I know secret things that know one knows of certain places and people, in a way it feels as though I lived in those times), I am able to have an insane amount of information of everything of the past. This actually comes in handy when I see what is going on in the world today. For example, I have gone over how President Obama is just like King John Lackland in another post, due to the amount of knowledge that I obtain.

      In my eyes, knowledge is power. Knowledge is more important than materialistic things that we obviously do not need. Do not take school for granted. Do not roll your eyes when the teacher says that there will be a test. Do not make fun of those who are just like me, those who are very interested in learning. Because knowledge is important.

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Teachers And Their Students

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   When you look at this picture, you would say that she is a “beautiful young lady with her life ahead of her”. However you would probably not think that she would be convicted of having sexual relations with her students.
The young lady in the mugshot is 27 year old, Jennifer Marie Perry. She is a English high school teacher at Pinson Valley High. She is married, but has no kids. The only thing that would be considered her kids, is her three dogs that her and her husband have.

Recently, this young teacher turned herself into the local police station after she had jacked off a 17 year old student on the school’s ground after hours. Now, I don’t know how far this teacher and the student had gone, but no teacher should ever have sexual relations with a student. For one, that is called, statutory rape. Secondly, the teacher would be risking his or her position as a teacher if they were to have sexual relations with a student of theirs. If I found a teacher having a sexual relationship with a student, I would get them fired immediately and put in prison.

   Here’s the sad thing though. All over Facebook, there are guys saying, “Where was she when I was in school?” And “I would tear that p***y up!” No, no, no! I’m sorry, but that’s just wrong. When a male teacher does something like this, everyone jumps down his throat and everyone wants to beat him up. But once a female teacher does this, she is hated by women but loved by men. Not only that, men wish that they were that student and having sex with the teacher. It’s a double standard and I’m sick of it. It’s not “hot” when a teacher has a sexual relations with a student. Sure, the fantasy is nice when you are role-playing with your significant other, but the reality of it is pretty disturbing and unethical.
The amount of sexual predators in these schools is astounding and disturbing at the same time. From now on, anyone who wants to be a teacher needs to have a thorough background check and also do a full evaluation of their mind and personality. That’s how I’m feeling about this whole situation.